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To Gaybellingham.orgRobert's general description of local scene Opinion of course.
This Guide may come to the top of search engine listings when "gay bellingham" is queried. That is partially because there has not been (as of yet) any umbrella organization serving Bellingham's diversified glbt community.
Occassionally people have gathered together with the goal of establishing a city wide pride organization. Sometimes a new web site gets launched, but volunteer energy invariably runs out. People scatter off in various directions and the site doesn't get updated.
Meanwhile, I keep maintaining this guide and my glbt newsletter even though I am not an organization. I am an individual who loves doing things on the web. Also it brings interest to the other parts of my site.
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Possibly this site's biggest manifestation is a Wednesday Dinner social. Every Wednesday we have a gay dinner that's real friendly and often brings 10 - 30 people together. Almost always men, but open to all.
Unlike a large city with obvious institutions, bars and gay ghettos Bellingham is fairly quiet. At the same time it doesn't seem to be anti gay. Over time, social networks form.
Rumors Cabaret, sometimes said to be "our bar," has a very mixed crowd. Often more non gay than gay people there when it's busier in late evenings. Early evenings the percentage of gay people seems to be higher.
Travel to the two large cities of Seattle, WA. or Vancouver, BC. is considered one of Bellingham's assetts. They are fairly handy. Bellingham rests (rests might be a good word for it) in-between. I bicycle to Vancouver to dance ocassionally. It's only 60 miles!
Women are said to be more organized, locally, than men.
Gay people tend to participate in the main stream of local life going to places like the Y and other types of community groups. There are also several open and affirming churches in the area.
Politically, Bellingham tends to be "blue state," but much of rural Whatcom County might be classified as "red state."
When folks come together, which happens occassionally, there can be interesting dialog. Every year there is a Pride Festival and it gets bigger each year. 2007 saw over 1,000 folks drop by.
Looking for a "soul mate" can be frustrating in places other than large cities. While there may be lots of folks around, everyone is a bit different. People are either "too old," "too young" or what ever. Some would say it's like being washed up onto a desert island. There might be "one drag queen," "one leather man" and "one lesbian" at some gathering.
Various subgroups within the gay scene can be so small that subgroups basically have to get along.
Patience is an important virtue. Also learning to value a wide circle of friends from different stripes.
People often fall in love with someone from the distant city, thus leading to the term "I-5 Relationship."
Still, a lot of glbt folks like living in the Bellingham area.
Check out my guide which links to various activities and organizations in this area; at least the things I am aware of. Feel free to contact me. You may know of something I have missed.
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